Tuesday, July 21, 2009
Sunday, July 19, 2009
But If We Started Dating It Would Ruin Our Friendship Where I Ask You To Do Things And You Do Them
I really like you. I do. You're so nice, and sweet, and you listen to all my problems and respond with the appropriate compliments. But, well, I don't really see a relationship in our future. It would be terrible if we let sex destroy this great friendship we have where I get everything I want and you get nothing you want. Don't you think?
I knew you would understand. You always do.
We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me bitch about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.
It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call? That part of our friendship means so much to me.
No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.
Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.
Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.
Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.
Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other asshole guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.
Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.
Best friends. Friends forever.
from: someone else
I knew you would understand. You always do.
We're so perfect as friends, you know? I can tell you anything, and you know you can always come to me anytime you need to hear me bitch about work or how ugly I feel. You wouldn't want to ruin a friendship like that just so you could be my boyfriend, and have me look at you with desire and longing in my eyes, if only once—would you? Of course not. Well, if we started dating, it would only complicate this wonderful setup I've got going here.
It's just…you're like my best friend, and I would hate for something you desperately want to change that. I mean, sure, we could go on some dates, maybe mess around a little and finally validate the six years you've spent languishing in this platonic nightmare, but then what? How could we ever go back to the way we were, where I take advantage of your clear attraction to me so I can have someone at my beck and call? That part of our friendship means so much to me.
No. We are just destined to be really, really good friends who only hang out when I don't have a boyfriend, but still need male attention to boost my fragile and all-consuming ego.
Anything can happen once you bring romance in. Think about how awful my last relationship was at the end, remember? The guy I'd call you crying about at 3 a.m. because he wouldn't answer my texts? The guy I met at the birthday party you threw me? I had insanely passionate sex with him for four months and now we don't even talk anymore. God, I would die if something like that happened to us.
Plus, ick, can you even imagine getting naked in front of each other? I've known you so long, you're more like a brother that I've drunkenly made out with twice and never mentioned again. It'd be way too weird. And if we did, then whenever you'd come shopping with me, or go to one of my performances or charity events, or take me for ice cream when I've had a bad day at work, you'd be looking at me like, "I've seen her breasts." God, I can't think of anything more awkward that that.
Oh, before I forget, my mom says hi.
Anyway, you would totally hate me as your girlfriend. I'd be all needy and dramatic and slowly growing to love you. If I was your girlfriend, I would never be able to tell you all about the other asshole guys I date and pretend I don't see how much it crushes you. Let's never lose that. That's what makes us us.
Don't worry. You're so funny and smart and amazing, any girl but me would be lucky to date you. You'll find someone, I know it. And when you do, I'll be right by your side to suddenly become all flirty and affectionate with you in front of her, until she grows jealous and won't believe it when you say we're just friends. But when she dumps you, that's just what we'll be.
Best friends. Friends forever.
from: someone else
Saturday, July 18, 2009
Sunday, July 12, 2009
a city made from Origami
A DEDICATED origami artist spent four years creating this beautiful model city from paper — but now plans to BURN it down.
Wataru Ito, 25, started building the 'Castle on the Ocean' when he became bored during his exams.
Using only a knife and glue, the art student built an entire cityscape by cutting and folding hundreds of pages of craft paper.
The central tower is surrounded by a cathedral, school, theme park, factory and airport and comes complete with electrical lights and a moving train.
The finished piece is now being displayed for the first time at an exhibition on the island of Umihotaru, near Tokyo, Japan.
But Wataru, a second year student at Tokyo University of the Arts, says he will set his work on fire when the show is over.
He said: "I am devoted while I am working on my projects but I quickly lose interest when I complete them.
"When the exhibition is over I will burn the castle.
"I thought I could see it rising up from the ashes if I took a video and played it backwards."
http://www.animevice.com/news/welcome-to-the-origami-city/1738/
Wataru Ito, 25, started building the 'Castle on the Ocean' when he became bored during his exams.
Using only a knife and glue, the art student built an entire cityscape by cutting and folding hundreds of pages of craft paper.
The central tower is surrounded by a cathedral, school, theme park, factory and airport and comes complete with electrical lights and a moving train.
The finished piece is now being displayed for the first time at an exhibition on the island of Umihotaru, near Tokyo, Japan.
But Wataru, a second year student at Tokyo University of the Arts, says he will set his work on fire when the show is over.
He said: "I am devoted while I am working on my projects but I quickly lose interest when I complete them.
"When the exhibition is over I will burn the castle.
"I thought I could see it rising up from the ashes if I took a video and played it backwards."
http://www.animevice.com/news/welcome-to-the-origami-city/1738/
Monday, July 6, 2009
As in all group discussions, there would be conflict, which results in clashes of ideas or mindsets. There are a few views that people hold to regarding conflict. Firstly, the traditional view feels that conflict should be avoided. On the other hand, the human relations view of conflict feels that conflict is a natural and unavoidable part of any group. It need not be detrimental to the entire discussion but could also provide a point for the group to progress. Finally, there’s the integrationist view of conflict that states that conflict is necessary for a group to be effective. This does not mean that all conflicts are good, on the contrary there’s functional conflicts (beneficial) and dysfunctional conflict (detrimental). Both types of conflicts are influenced by task conflict (problems adhering to the objectives of work), relationship conflict (problems centering on the people to people level) and process conflict (problems referring to the way a job is done).
The strange thing about communication is the power that a listener wields. To quote from an article: "A song isn't good unless the listener says it is good; audiences determine music's success. However, it is equally true that we aren't serious listeners until we have educated our ears. If we don't critically train our listening tastes, we could be a mindless consumer of whatever the music industry pushes our way with big ad budgets and slick promotions."
In a similar vein, being a good listener actually counts in businesses. Studies show that upto 73% of business leaders rated listening as a "very important" skill. Recent studies also show that listening is among the top five characteristics that an employer expects of the employee. Naturally, listening in the business environment as a misunderstanding could cost millions of dollars and the lost of one's career. The importance of feedback forms and surveys also underlines the relevance of listening; understanding the customers' concerns and solving the problem(i.e. listening to the customer), would make the product better and up the company's status quo.
So, essentially, what makes a good listener? Firstly, establishing eye contact, let the speaker know you are devoting your entire concentration on him. A good listener should not only be alert to a speaker's verbal communication but also their body language. One should also be patient and allow him to finish before voicing one's opinion, that is basic courtesy. Moreover, a good listener is also responsive, questions should be put forward in a gentle manner, other than that, verbal communication(like a simple "yeah" or "hmm") and simple body language(nodding of the head), could also show that you are in fact paying full attention to the speaker. One should also work to provide constructive criticism and view the topic from the speaker's point of view. Above all, one should keep an open mindset and take the other person's views with a pinch of salt.
Remember, being a good listener is a life-skill, one does not live in a world that orbits around you.
The strange thing about communication is the power that a listener wields. To quote from an article: "A song isn't good unless the listener says it is good; audiences determine music's success. However, it is equally true that we aren't serious listeners until we have educated our ears. If we don't critically train our listening tastes, we could be a mindless consumer of whatever the music industry pushes our way with big ad budgets and slick promotions."
In a similar vein, being a good listener actually counts in businesses. Studies show that upto 73% of business leaders rated listening as a "very important" skill. Recent studies also show that listening is among the top five characteristics that an employer expects of the employee. Naturally, listening in the business environment as a misunderstanding could cost millions of dollars and the lost of one's career. The importance of feedback forms and surveys also underlines the relevance of listening; understanding the customers' concerns and solving the problem(i.e. listening to the customer), would make the product better and up the company's status quo.
So, essentially, what makes a good listener? Firstly, establishing eye contact, let the speaker know you are devoting your entire concentration on him. A good listener should not only be alert to a speaker's verbal communication but also their body language. One should also be patient and allow him to finish before voicing one's opinion, that is basic courtesy. Moreover, a good listener is also responsive, questions should be put forward in a gentle manner, other than that, verbal communication(like a simple "yeah" or "hmm") and simple body language(nodding of the head), could also show that you are in fact paying full attention to the speaker. One should also work to provide constructive criticism and view the topic from the speaker's point of view. Above all, one should keep an open mindset and take the other person's views with a pinch of salt.
Remember, being a good listener is a life-skill, one does not live in a world that orbits around you.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
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